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Chris Hester's avatar

Some men shouldn’t have a wife….or a dog or any companion

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

Or be allowed to raise (read: groom) a daughter ...

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Jill Horner's avatar

That’s for damn sure!

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Ollie Raymond's avatar

I seriously hope TayTay is having a long hard chat with Trav.

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

I can't imagine he didn't have her read this speech before he gave it. It's sooooooooo carefully worded and sooooooooooo balanced in terms of agreement and disagreement with Butker's vile positions that he comes off looking sooooooooo FAIR. BUT, giving it a pass on religious grounds is the kicker here because it means any of us can do anything and hide it behind religious belief like Trump hides an insurrection behind alleged presidential immunity. We have to stop giving religion a pass.

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Carol L. Clark's avatar

Young Buetker and his wife are perfectly free to live their lives as they want. So do the rest of us as we, too, have the same rights that do not agree with their way. So far. So long as Trumpistan is not reelected and the Heritage Foundation’s Project 2025 that would rule us with an iron fist - arrest us, jail us, put us in concentration camps, the whole Nazi gameplan. No lie. That’s real.

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

Yup, I agree. This jackass misogynist was free to express his opinion--which infuriated many of the Catholic students in his audience--and the rest of us are free to express our profound distrust of and disgust at the MRA-manosphere anti-woman prejudice behind it. And yes, we are, with Project 2025, looking at the Fourth Reich.

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Carol L. Clark's avatar

Subscribed.

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Beverly D's avatar

It IS real - and if THAT doesn’t scare you, I guess nothing will!

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Eva Porter's avatar

Sad that we’re still talking about a kicker like he’s important.

He gave a shit speech to a small, somewhat sympathetic to his cause, venue. Even the nuns there told said he’s wrong. He didn’t have the courage to talk that trash at Gonzaga, Creighton, or Georgetown, all Catholic universities run by Jesuits. He knows they’d have booed his ass off stage.

So, Butker. Go see how that plays with Catholics at a large, Jesuit run university. Frankly, that shit would be unwelcome at my kids’ Catholic high schools.

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Jill Horner's avatar

If you’re a football fan, a kicker can win or lose the game for your team. I’d say that is an important job.

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

Well, he almost blew the Chiefs' Super Bowl chances, but redeemed himself in the end. It is a shocking travesty that anybody listens to Charles Barkley about politics or the self-worshipping Harrison Butker about women. ... You know, Albert Einstein refused an offer to be prime minister of Israel--to everyone's relief--because he basically said, "Hey, look. I'm a nuclear physicist not an expert on government."

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Jill Horner's avatar

Another reason Einstein was a genius!

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Eva Porter's avatar

Yeah I know. I went to the University of Arizona in the 1980s when our kicker, Max Zendejas, was often the difference between wins and losses.

My point is that particular kicker is only important to the Chiefs.

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Leslie's avatar

We’re not talking about big brains here…..the boys are just sticking up for their bigoted teammate.

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

Yup. The "religious beliefs" defense is very, very slick and slippery. And horrible.

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LaurenAZGoodGirl's avatar

I am SOFA KING tired of all religious cult members pushing their, in many cases, psychotic beliefs in ethereal anthropomorphic male “gods”, with zero scientific proof of existence but plenty of male-driven self-serving editorial effects to their supportive theologies, being given a free pass because they have a “strongly held religious belief”. Bullshit!

When I jimmied the lock on the freezer in the basement of my middle school kitchen because I had a “strongly held religious belief” that I wanted an ice cream sandwich, the principal said, “Bullshit!” I got three whacks with a wooden paddle, two days suspension, and a note written to my parents.

Two things:

1) Someone needs to call bullshit on Butker. Since when does a place kicker get to give a commencement address? What were those people even thinking?!

2) Ms. Swift should reconsider what sort of person Travis Kelce is, before hitching herself to him, or bearing his children. In Butker’s wet dream, Kelce should pass Taylor around to the whole team, right? Because, boys need to bust a nut, and girls can’t say no, because “gawd” ‘n stuff.

Disgusting pigs.

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Bonnie's avatar

Damn! Fave comment du jour!!!

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denise ardis's avatar

And everything you point out is why I (raised & educated in the cult of Catholic Church) ran from that nightmare as soon as I possibly could!

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John Hennigan's avatar

Then they’re just as CORRUPT.

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

Yup. The sad thing is that the male code is so strong that, on some level, it's always really hard for men to outright criticize each other--even if they don't agree at all. And these two men have the "team" on their minds and what this controversy will do to next year's chances for a winning season. So they soft-peddle it, even though Mahomes has previously said he WON'T SPEAK TO BUTKER. He can't stand the guy. ... And the problem with women is they are always divided between the women willing to lose husbands, parents, and children to get this insanity stopped, and the women who will sell out another woman in 10 seconds to get a man, the women who don't want to face the low pay, sexism, and five-foot-thick glass ceilings on her own with kids to put through college. It's asymmetrical warfare for rights all the time. And that's just sexism. When you get to racism, it's even worse. ... I'm heartsick, though: Butker took a swipe at Jews OUTSIDE of Catholic doctrine, and catapulted fireballs at guys as well. The petition to remove him from the Chiefs line-up now stands at 226,439 as of this writing. I haven't signed it and won't. Freedom of speech means having a right to say your piece without being punished for it. What we need is healthy debate, and we're getting it. He has just exposed religious misogyny (see Pavlovich on this, he's brilliant), MRA misogyny, and the craven self-interest. of his co-players. At least the NFL did it right. And the nuns did it right. But that's about it. We just need to keep talking about this.

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John Hennigan's avatar

No, freedom of speech does NOT mean you’re protected from the consequences of what you say.

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

AGREED!!!! ... GLAAD is already commenting, and I sure hope the RCC and the ADL pipes up, too.

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Rose Maly, MD, MSPH's avatar

Tell it like it is, goddam it!

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william morrison's avatar

You KNEW they were just as big an asshole as Butker

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Beverly D's avatar

This is a turd show. It’s not religious. It’s Misogyny and disrespect for an entire gender. Disrespect of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives, girlfriends. Disrespect for half the world & this country.

Bullshit. Pure Bullshit.

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Jennifer Trybom's avatar

Lost completely 2 housefuls of fans

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Mary Gunn's avatar

That’s crap. His religion is no excuse to look down on others and think women’s health issues are within his right to even have an opinion on.

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

Right. The only person who should decide a woman's fate about anything is a woman.

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John Hennigan's avatar

Football players are basically brain dead (too many knocks on the head) self-entitled assholes.

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Nate VanDuser's avatar

Religion - ALL religion - is toxic.

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Marcy Rothenberg's avatar

Well, if your religion teaches sexism & misogyny, that would make sense.

But since mine teaches NEITHER, I call BS.

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

What's your religion? ... Christianity definitely teaches it. Islam definitely teaches it. Jewish women are always complaining about shin bet. Hinduism, the only religion never to have lost its Goddesses (though some Jews argue the Shekhinah is the Divine Feminine), is definitely anti-woman to an intensive degree. Shinto is male supermacist. Confucianism is as well. Shamanism always had female shamans, and Native American religions, with the exception of Aztec culture, have goddesses among their Holy People. African religions, until (like Native American religions) they were contaminated with European prejudices, were largely egalitarian. You can certainly call BS if your religion doesn't espouse this degrading opinion of women -- but you can't call BS on religion in general, as religions is absolutely, worldwide, the #1 enforcing agency of the patriarchy and the controlling agency of laws against women, right down to mass murder.

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Marcy Rothenberg's avatar

Reform Judaism.

And what does Shin Bet (Israeli intel) have to do with this topic?!

And I can call BS on this statement by these 2 guys w/o it being mistaken as “calling BS on religion in general.”

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Morgaan Sinclair, Ph.D.'s avatar

I'm sorry, Marcy. I completely misunderstand what your comment referred to. And apologies also ... I meant Biet Din, not Shin Bet! (i've been like this all day!) ... i have a friend who hasn't been able to get a gett for years -- and she worries about custody of her children and feels she has diminished legal rights under Jewish law.

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Marcy Rothenberg's avatar

Getting a gett applies only to Orthodox Jews; that branch of Judaism is not egalitarian. Reform Judaism is.

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Jill Horner's avatar

I know nothing about Reformed Judaism, but just the name.

I remember when there was a Reformed Episcopalian movement. Have no idea if it’s still going, but I don’t go to church anyway.

Could you guide me to a source to find out more about Reformed Judaism?

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